Back to Question of the Week Back to Archives Question of the Week Q: Whenever I go to visit someone's grave, I put a stone on top of it just before I leave. I always do it because I know that that is the tradition but I have never really understood why we have this tradition and where it comes from. I would appreciate an explanation. Lee
		A: The leaving of a pebble is in a way the erection of a small, new monument-a tomb-stone to honour the memory of the dead. Indeed, the custom may have evolved from an ancient method of marking graves. So in one sense, it is simply a way of saying: here lie the remains of a person worth remembering. And the pebble also lets others know that someone did come and remember. Symbolically, it suggests the continuing presence of love and memory which are as strong and enduring as a rock. And we know that one name for God is "The Rock of Israel." So the rock is a reminder of the presence of the Rock, Whose love truly is stronger than death. written by Rabbi Jeremy Schwartz
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